I know I still have a week to go on the 30 day project, but with no real perspectives in my future I've decided it's time to fess up. What did I learn from my experience thus far? It's hard to say. I know I've realized how different it is trying to date in the straight world than in my world. Dating pools are smaller and more spread out. Also being a picky guy hasn't helped. In fact the best two dates, per say, were people I already knew.
Interesting development, I knew both of the guys I had the most fun with before the project. Maybe it's gotten to the point in your life, when all that you need is finally right here. Or maybe it's that sad point when you really exhausted every other option and now you are left to your own sloppy seconds. How depressing. Well at least I'm not in glass-half-full mode anymore. Back to dark and dismal.
What else have I learned? I've learned you can't put a time limit on finding someone, much less to find someone to love. Well you can, just really lower the bar. Remember these hopeless losers are single for a reason, either damaged, homely, or too concerned to get their rocks off to even fathom a relationship. You think you found that last good single guy (Diamond in the rough, much?), you're very wrong or as dumb as the guy you're going for. Good luck you crazy fucking kids.
I suppose to conclude this project what I really learned was all those cliches people tell you, "if you're looking for love first check your backyard" kind of shit is cliche for a reason. Most of the shit is spot on. Seems to me if you can't find love, or are just incapable of it, great lovers and great friends will fill the gap just fine. At least if you're in your 20's. Maybe every decade alone just gets more depressing. Then I'm out Thelma and Louise style bitches.
Bradley James
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