The Dating Caste System...

Do you think there is one? Is our society divided into unchangeable groups you can't escape? Are they strict rules or just taboo? These are all the questions that come to me when I get the creepy message from some prehistoric child molester on MySpace... "Bradley, you into older?"

You have to give snaps to people that try to date out of their numerical attractiveness status, because at least they are that brave. Mostly though, these people are stupid. So the real question is what are the defining characteristics of these leagues? I think the system falls not on age or race, but numerically. But then you have to ask yourself, am I a 6 or an 8?

Like previously mentioned, age is a deciding factor into your numerical status, as the older you get the lower your numerical value will be. For example a 20 year old will generally fall higher on the scale than a 50 year old will. We all know that stamina is also a huge deciding factor as well. Lets not lie to ourselves.

There is however debate on whether your personality is a contributor. Is is based solely on physical appearance alone? My personal feeling is include the personality is a huge part. Do you want to walk up to some guy that looks like Patrick Dempsey and talks like Keanu Reeves? I will however limit this personality to small talk as you are judged only on the first three minutes. Three minutes you say? Well it just so happens that I have a theory regarding anyone, within the first three minutes you decide if you would sleep with this person. Cut throat? Maybe, but honest.

These aren't rules for judging numerical value, but they are good guidelines. So next time 6, when you ask me if I(8) want a drink, think twice and go play with someone your own size.

Bradley James

The Ex Files...

There's something strange about them. Inhuman almost. Emotional telepathy is what I think it is, and lately I've fallen victim to the powers of darkness. Have you even noticed once you're settled into a new relationship and have finally moved on, then they start appearing? You know... The exes. Or maybe you've moved or found a new great job only to find them as your first client or next door neighbor. It's as though they can sense you're happiness in life and want to come and suck that glimmer of hope from your still beating heart!

Maybe I'm getting carried away, but I've been in a good place now. I'm happy. My friends are amazing, and I like my job well enough. I'm not alone, but not really dating. All in all I'm comfortably good. That's when they strike from the woodwork with torches and pitchforks at you like you're this carnal beast when it's them that don't see the monster inside. I'm sure even I've been that evil blood thirsty beast before. It's more subconscious than anything. You don't recognize the evil taking place until you look in the mirror.

Well my friends this has been that week. Those creatures must have dropped the victims they were leeching on to come again to prey on me. First one, then three, and finally five came after me at one point or another. They tend to strike sometimes as innocently as texts or emails, but the real beasts like to make themselves known. Some just appear, usually at gas stations or supermarkets, but then there are the ones that go out to find you! These are the most dangerous kind, as I found out this week. This one searched Myspace to find me. He then dug deeper and found out where I worked, and not only came in to eat but to see me. He sat at the bar and watched me for hours before striking. It seems anytime they try this their opening line is the same, "Seeing anyone?" Fucking chills to my toes.

When you break up you think it's done, like you will see Elvis before that pathetic excuse for a boyfriend. But be warned, They are all out there lurking in the shadows, stalking and waiting until that optimal happy point to strike. Always have your guard up and never walk a supermarket alone...

Bradley James

PS. Anyway this guy could have been the stalker from my earlier post? Comments...

Can You Feel the Change?

First off let me congratulate our next president of the United States, Barack Obama. Also thanks to John McCain who's speech was compelling and captivating. Now on to business!

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It's been a week of reflection, looking on the past and seeing the difference between what was and what is. I got to go out to dinner with one of my bestest, B. We knew each other from church a long time ago, and again through mutual friends, and finally worked together to solidify our relationship. Much of my reflecting today is due to her. Ru San's is our place to reminisce and that we did. Of relationships, love interests, and mistakes we wish we could take back. And may I also add that the Starbucks on East is the most fantastic place ever. It has real silver cutlery and a fucking fire place.

I even recieved a peom I wrote a hundred years ago via email. I won't go into the embarassing details of the content, but I will say I(as well as my writing) have grown quite a bit. It got me to thinking if you will continue changing at this rapid pace forever or if it is just a 20 something phase? Do you ever really "become" the person you want to be? All I can think is how happy I am changing into that person, no matter how long it takes. Make the mistakes, make new friends, and get off your ass. Enjoy living life.

Bradley James